Does Goal Setting Feel Like Wishful Thinking?

Are you good at achieving your goals? Chances are, if you answer yes to that question, you’ve got a system for goal setting and goal achieving. Not too long ago, I was on the executive team of a growing startup. A regular part of my week was spent discussing goals, KPIs, metrics, and roadmaps. We …

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15 Days of Meditation

Ready to practice meditation every day? If you’ve been wanting to practice meditation, but are having trouble figuring out where to start, I’d like to help. Join this email class and get five unique, simple, powerful meditations emailed to you, plus daily reminders to help you establish a consistent meditation practice on your own. This is a …

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Consciousness Isn’t a Mystery. It’s Matter. – The New York Times

“If you gotta ask, you ain’t never going to know.” — Louis Armstrong, on what jazz is… The Stone explains what consciousness is:   Consciousness, rather than being our biggest mystery, is “the most familiar thing there is, whether it’s experience of emotion, pain, understanding what someone is saying, seeing, hearing, touching, tasting or feeling. It …

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Why You Don’t Know Your Own Mind – The New York Times

Why You Don’t Know Your Own Mind – The New York Times It’s not our skills of introspection that brought humanity to this point in our evolutionary journey, it’s our skills of empathy and insight into what others are thinking. We’re actually naturally about as bad at understanding our own minds as we are at mind …

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In Defense of Villainesses | Tor.com

Next up in untangling the complex web of unfavorable cultural views of women… In Defense of Villainesses | Tor.com “She runs a business. She makes a thousand decisions every day and she never feels the need to justify any of them with a shrug or an ‘I don’t know, I just thought maybe we could…?’ …

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True Talk with Cyndi Lauper

Source: Cyndi Lauper is Having Fun Singing Country – AARP There are two kinds of people in the world: those who sit at the table and those who sit at the bar. We table sitters value comfort, privacy, predictability. Bar sitters happily sacrifice those things for the chance encounters, the unpredictability, the fun. Can you …

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On Finding Your Purpose: An Extraordinary Letter by Hunter S. Thompson (via Tranquil Monkey)

My friend came across this letter from Hunter S. Thompson on Tranquil Monkey and sent it along to a group of us gals who talk about our goals and purpose in life.

Yes, goals groups are a thing, and they’re great. Get together with some friends every few weeks and talk about your goals. Seriously.

Anyway, here we have a not-yet famous Hunter S. Thompson writing a letter on the meaning of life to a friend. Man, I can’t remember the last time a friend sent me a letter, and I’m pretty sure it didn’t contain the meaning of life, or any Shakespeare quotes.

Whew, it’s good stuff. As these things often happen, my friend sent this just as I was debating something along the same lines, whether to float with the tide, or swim for a goal.

When you’re freelancing and building your own business, it’s inevitable that something will come your way wanting to take you out of the water. And swimming is hard, so you contemplate it. It’d be so much easier to just take a regular job, you think. Give up the dream for a paycheck and benefits like most everyone else does.

But I think what Hunter S. Thompson is trying to tell his friend, more or less, that when presented with two choices (or eight), you either know if one is right for you, or if neither feels right, and you’re feeling stuck enough to ask for advice, you’ve gotta find a third (or ninth) way. You gotta stay true to you and keep going for the life you want.

Something like that, right?

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