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Book Club: How to Be an Adult

The other day I was hanging out at a friend’s place and noticed a book on the coffee table. It bore the ridiculous title “How to Be an Adult” in big letters, but I noticed the subtitle, “A Handbook on Psychological and Spiritual Integration.”

Without the subtitle, I would have ignored the book. It sounds like it will tell me how to budget, do my taxes, and be careful with diet and exercise. But the psychological and spiritual integration side of adulting… now you have my attention.

Here’s a little nugget from the introduction:

“In this book we explore departure and struggle by working through the drama of childhood, by assertiveness (asking for what we want, being clear and taking responsibility for our own feelings), by dealing with fear, anger and guilt, by building self-esteem, by maintaining personal boundaries, by achieving true intimacy, by integrating ourselves flexibly, and by befriending our Shadow.”

If you’ve been reading my posts and letters for a while, you can probably tell that these are all topics I love to ramble on about. This is everything! In one tiny, weirdly titled book!

I went home and looked the book up on Amazon, downloaded it to my Kindle app on my iPhone, and I’ve been reading it obsessively ever since.

I’d like to share with you my notes as I go through the book. I hope to share quotes, references, and reflections as I process what the author shares in this little handbook.

If you’d like to download the book and follow along in my little book club, feel free! I’m not making anything off promoting this book, I just think it’s really interesting.

It’ll help me process and integrate this information if I can share it with you, and I’d love to hear your thoughts as well. Sound like fun?

I’ll also be sharing notes in the FB group for more opportunities to discuss. Head over to if you want more reading notes!




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